A comment about the recent – by William Fuentes

Olga and William

Olga and William

“Tamed as it may be, sexuality remains one of the demonic forces in human consciousness — pushing us at intervals close to taboo and dangerous desires, which range from the impulse to commit sudden arbitrary violence upon another person to the voluptuous yearning for the extinction of one’s consciousness, for death itself. Even on the level of simple physical sensation and mood, making love surely resembles having an epileptic fit at least as much as, if not more than, it does eating a meal or conversing with someone.”~Susan Sontag

A few several people, horrible circumstances, mutual agree-and-disagreements, betrayal, rejection, a history, a flame from old or new, then, unexpectedly, the combination ignites a relationship between two people giving it, it’s forbidden underlines, facilitated from those around the relationship expressing, “This is treacherous and erroneous” so-so wrong. Kind of like witches around a black cauldron making the smoke and flames higher and higher with chants and spells of scorn. People, by nature, want what they cannot have or should not have; we are taught this as children; sometimes inadvertently as well.

Automatic, if you tell the child, “No that’s not for you” The child wants it more than ever. Afterward the more you rationalize to the child why he or she cannot have it; the more the child desires it. You, the adult, are adding to the childs desire, a new component; taboo. “Taboo” is the engine for any supposedly forbidden relationship. An easier-said then-done solution, the psychology here would be, to give the child what he or she wants leaving the child to do with it, as they will, inevitably, if the circumstances are indeed “Taboo”, they hurt themselves with it, then, lesson learned, (hopefully without anyone or themselves suffering the lose of a finger or an eye or even worse in the process of “lesson learned”). I am only speaking metaphorically mind you. I mean really, your not going to let your kid play with a powerdrill no matter how much he cries.

Though, It has always been in my experience, whenever ‘I think’ I might be, a third party of some “taboo relationship” from an old flame and friend, I stay clear and far of it as much as possible with-a-very-less than zero attitude attached to it, no emotional strings, no logical-verbal comments. instead, feeling fortunate I got off easy. Leaving only the two parties with no extra fiery-bond with my name on it as it’s foundation; adieu those two, with only each other. Truly ‘if‘ the pedestal of any relationship has cracks in it, sooner or later that relationship will just end up as a pile of rubble and debri. I’ve seen it before, I’ve done it before, and I’ve been under the pile before.

This entry is just one perspective though. Very rarely have I ever seen anything good come from anything bad, save myself and my attitude towards unfaithfull behavior. I’d much prefer to be a part of something wonderful, the begining of something permitted, and not an ethical forbiddence. Still, things can always change with time.

“Whenever a taboo is broken, something good happens, something vitalizing. Taboos after all are only hangovers, the product of diseased minds, you might say, of fearsome people who hadn’t the courage to live and who under the guise of morality and religion have imposed these things upon us.” ~Henry Miller

~ by g2 on October 27, 2008.

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